Wedding

I have this theory brewing that there are  a lot of people who do not have a realistic view on marriage. We always hear about the engagement and the wedding. Reality shows on the best proposals then followed by shows about bridezillas. Its all build up to the day. The bigger the engagement/wedding the better. Its a theater production staring the loving couple and more than a few thousand of their dollars. I have been to more than my fair share of those types of productions. Some have resulted in happy marriages and some have resulted in divorce- 50% I think ( sound famila?). I think sometimes the wedding out weighs the marriage when some people make the decision to get married. 

I have received some pretty shocked expressions when I tell people that I don’t want the giant: ring, engagement, dress or wedding. As if the ring and the size of the wedding relate directly to how much we love each other. What I want is to be with the man I love and to share that with the friends and family that I love. Simply and elegantly. I don’t need or want all the other stuff. I have all that I want already.

We have our civil ceremony this month with just our parents and next year we will have the larger wedding were we commit our love to each other in front of all of our friends and family. I look forward to that not the dress or the party but the actual commitment.